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What should a Master be? The
question can only be answered individually by both Masters and
fledglings alike. Here is my rendition of what a Master should be.
The Master is a strong man,
a dominate man. He is sure of himself, confident in his place in
society. He cherishes females, revels by their presence. he is
giving, caring, Loving and understanding.
When the Master takes on a
new fledgling, he worships her, discovers her, slowly possesses
her. He gently pushes her, always ready to show her that she is
strong, that her limits are not what she believes them to be, that
she can be taken farther. In this, the Master reveals to the
fledgling her own confidence, her own levels of self esteem.
As the Master learns his new
fledgling, an understanding takes place. He senses her desires,
her needs, her passions. With this new knowledge, the Master takes
care of the fledgling, always giving what the fledgling needs but
not necessarily what she presumes she needs.
It is the Master's
responsibility to care for, protect and love his fledgling. If she
is sick, he will feed her. If she is exhausted, he will allow her
to rest, stroking her hair and she does so. If she is scared, he
will confront her. If she needs affection, he will hold her. These
things he does willingly, because her knows her. He understands
her as no one else does. He has seen into her soul and held it in
his hands. Her mind is his to read, to know. Her body is his to
feel. Her heart is his to caress. She becomes his possession.
The Master does not take
away the fledglings identity, but allows her to grow into her own
being, her own likeness, her submission to him is not a vehicle of
punishment or hatred, but one of love and development. She is
given the room to come into her own, under her Master's care, like
a flower that flourished under the sun's warmth. She radiates from
his love and devotion. She becomes a rose; a beautiful being that
knows she is loved and cared for.
There is the profile of a
Master: strong, able, confident, loving, caring, encouraging, and
gentle. "What about punishment and discipline?" you may be asking.
Punishment is handed out lovingly yet firmly. The Master is not
angry, there is no place for anger with punishment. The Master is
teaching. Punishment and discipline need not be physical, it can
be psychological. It is not done out of harshness or hostility, it
is done out of love and forgiveness.
In conclusion, I believe a
Master does not mold a sub into what he feels she should be, but
allows her the freedom to live and grow under his loving care. She
becomes the woman she has always been, deep within her spirit. He
takes her gift of submission seriously, knowing that it is not
given freely or lightly. He always remembers how precious the gift
is, how rare it is, how beautiful it is. For she has given him
something that cannot be taken for granted; she has given him the
gift of her soul.
The fledgling is a woman,
firm in her femininity. She offers herself to a Master freely, of
her own choosing. She gives the gift of her submission in exchange
for his protection, care and love. She is obedient because she
chooses to be, net because she is forced to be. Her first priority
is pleasing her Master. She will do whatever he ask in order to
meet his desires.
She comes to him a woman,
but unsure of her place. With his guidance, she quickly learns
what is expected of her. With this learning, she begins to give
more of herself, of her soul, until she has given her all to her
Master. There is no power given up, no control taken away. She
gives what she wants to give and her Master holds the gift in his
heart, always sharing, always giving back what she needs. An
immense measure of trust is built between the two: the fledgling
must trust her Master completely in order to give him so much of
herself and the Master must trust the fledgling in order for him
to accept it.
"Training" of the fledgling
is just the process of learning what the Master desires. The
fledgling must learn when to kneel, how to sit to please her
Master, how to address her Master, and so on, as much as the
Master deems necessary. She does these things because she wants
to: she aims to please her Master in all ways possible. Even the
most "bratty: fledgling comes to know just what is expected of her
and what her Master's limits are. She may in play push him so far,
but to exceed that limit, would be to displease her Master,
something all fledglings attempt to avoid.
The fledgling seemingly has
no responsibilities, but a deeper observation shows otherwise. It
could be said, and has been said by many, that the Master holds
all the responsibilities: however, many of the fledglings
responsibilities are subtle enough to be overlooked. Of course, as
mentioned above, an extremely important one is to please her
Master. Perhaps more important, however, is the amount of faith
the fledgling must have in her Master. She must believe and trust
that what he does if for the good of all concerned and learn to
NEVER question his motives. If he orders her to do something, she
will do so happily, and without embarrassment, because that is
what her Master wants. She will not harbor any sentiments or guilt
from this action. She trust that her Master knows what is bet for
them both.
As I said before, this is MY
definition of the Master, fledgling relationship and it is only
with that knowledge that I embark on the topic of "safewords". I
feel that there are no need for safewords if the fledgling truly
trust the Master and the Master truly knows the fledgling. The
Master may understand that the fledgling can go farther that she
thought and, without the use of safewords, he is able to take her
there. If, however, a safeword is used and the Master does not
heed the fledgling's perceived limit, than an important trust is
broken. Of course, in a new relationship. it must be taken slowly,
so that the trust and understanding are able to grow. With
perseverance, however, the two can reach a point where the Master
knows how far the fledgling can physically, emotionally, and
spiritually go and the fledgling can trust her Master's decisions.
The fledgling is a wonderful
role to live with the right Master. With him, she will grow
emotionally and spiritually into her soul. She will become what
she is deep within, and learn to love freely and unconditionally.
The Master also becomes the man he feels within his soul and the
two embark on a journey that will take them out of the realms and
limits of society and into the timeless dimensions of the
universe.
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