I,
<Insert Name of Submissive>, as a strong, devoted
woman who has an ongoing commitment to <Insert Name of
Dominant>, have the desire to express my love and
dedication to the man I love and adore and thereby
enter into this agreement with a free mind and a
devoted heart. I give the gift of complete ownership;
my heart, my body, and my soul to <Dominant name> as a
vow of this devotion. That the submission of my will
is given to him knowing he is taking me into his care
and guidance to grow together in love, trust and
mutual respect. I regard myself as his property at all
times. He accepts the keeping of my body and mind for
the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual,
spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs.
<Dominat
Name>will assume ownership of my other relationships,
reserving rights over these relationships, however he
will not interfere in them without my full prior
knowledge. Furthermore, I agree there are no limits
other than the ones that <Dominant Name>himself will
decide upon. I regard myself as existing solely for <Dominat
Name> pleasure and well being.
He will
guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene related
behavior, both together with, and separate from him,
in such a way as to further my growth as a person. He
considers it his responsibility to know when I am in
trouble.
He will
keep me safe no matter how restrained or deep within
the scene I may be. If he pushes me over the edge, he
accepts the responsibility of bringing me back safely
with reassurance and affection. If I want a safeword,
or a safety signal for a scene, <Dominant Name> will
set one up. If I want a permanent safeword, or a
safety signal, <Dominant Name>will discuss with me the
reasons as to having this request and decide if it is
appropriate. He will respect my safewords and safety
signals, but will not rely on them. He will treat my
use of safewords like any other refusal.
<Dominant Name> will mold and shape me; assisting me
to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being,
and that he will continue to help me to develop my
artistic and intellectual abilities. I will obey and
please him in all aspects of life, from practical
everyday living things, to fun and erotic events. The
satisfaction of his wants, desires, and whims are
consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found
pleasing to him. I offer him, in all respects, use of
my time, talents, and abilities. I am willing to do
absolutely anything for <Dominant Name>, giving him
total control of my life without hesitation or
consideration of myself or others.
<Dominant Name> has the right and responsibility of
inflicting disciplinary measures upon me, in order to
continually assert his position as Master and of my
position as his slave and submissive. Discipline also
serves to soften my will and reinforces the bonds of
ownership.
In not
fulfilling his requests, he has the right to punish me
as he see fits. He offers me the right to refuse him
in anything without suffering retribution. My refusal
tells him something is wrong between us and is
therefore a reason for serious discussion to fix
problems. However, if it becomes clear that I have
refused him for selfish personal reasons, he reserves
the right to punish me. If he chooses to punish me, I
will not enjoy the punishment. However, I have a right
to his continued affection and support, especially
while he is punishing me. He will never withhold his
support and affection from me as a means of
punishment.
I will
obey his commands to the best of my ability and strive
to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all
inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve
him; and limit my growth as his submissive. I will be
honest and open, revealing my thoughts, feelings, and
desires without hesitation or embarrassment; informing
him of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that he
is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be
satisfied.
In aims
to please him, I desire to have a positive self-image
and development of realistic expectations and goals,
working with him to become a happy and self-fulfilled
individual and work against negative aspects of my ego
and my insecurities that would interfere with this
advancement.
<Dominant Name>has no interest in running my daily
life, which remains my responsibility. However, if
there's anything he wants from me, something as
trivial as the color of my lipstick to something as
serious as quitting a job or giving up a friendship,
then he expects my obedience, after any pertinent and
appropriate discussions or negotiations are concluded.
I, in
turn, expect to be regarded as a treasured possession,
one that is cherished, loved, protected and respected.
<Dominant Name>understands that nothing asked of me
shall demean me as a person, nor diminish my own
responsibilities toward making utmost use of my
potential. <Dominant Name> will offer me the safe and
unrestricted right to question him about anything.
He,will give me a truthful and honest answer to any
question. If for any reason he can not answer a
question directly, he will give me an honest
explanation to why he can not answer me. <Dominant
Name> will not require me to break a confidence
without having some significant purpose of his own. He
will explain his purposes to me on request, and will
fairly consider my explanation as to why I might not
want to disclose a confidence to him. Any such
information will rest between us in confidence, and he
will not reveal it to other people without my specific
consent, unless he believes he has ajustifiable
reason.
I shall
devote some of my time to other commitments (e.g. job,
kids), that he shall not damage or harm, nor interfere
with the performance of my duties as mother unless
<Dominant Name>strongly objects to some aspect or act
of that commitment, in which case I will do as he
wishes, after appropriatediscussions or negotiations
are concluded.
<Dominant Name>will take what he wants from me in as a
responsible manner as he can. He will not seriously
interfere with my private life without appropriate
consideration of his own purposes compared to the
effects of his wishes on my life. However by
submitting myself, I must expect him to use me as he
wishes.
This
detailed arrangement is entered into our relationship
with an explicit awareness of the respective roles,
describing both of our expectations and
responsibilities and is a much clearer and more
specific agreement than the traditional marriage.
These commitments serve as the basis for an extension
of our relationship, in the spirit of loving and
consensual dominance and submission with the intention
of furthering self-awareness and exploration,
promoting health and happiness, and improving both our
lives.
This
agreement is also entered into with the explicit
understanding that I am not able to leave this
relationship no matter how much I might desire to do
so. Only <Dominant Name>has the power to dissolve the
bond of ownership, and this will remain true no matter
how unhappy I might become. However, if I ever feel
strongly about wanting to leave at some point in the
future, <Dominant Name> promises that he will
carefully assess our relationship for a lengthy period
of time in order to determine if releasing me is
really the best thing. If, after many months of
attempting to resolve our difficulties, he believes
that my unhappiness with him or with the relationship
is a permanent condition that can not be fixed by
either of us, he will release me.
I offer
my consent to this agreement to <Dominant Name> under
the terms stated above on this the ## day of [MONTH]
in the year 200X.
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I offer
my acceptance of this agreement by <Submissive Name>
under the terms stated above on this the ## day of
[MONTH] in the year 200X.
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